Al-Anon is a network of family support groups, which helps persons whose families are affected by alcoholism. The aim of these groups is to be recuperative and curative.
Al Anon was founded in 1951 and is an organization which provides support to the friends and family members of people who are addicted to alcohol. 16 years after Bill W founded Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Al-Anon was founded by Lois W. his wife and Anne B. Lois W sort to help others suffering at the hands of alcoholics like herself. Financial contributions are done by the members of the group itself which keep it running. The meetings aim to help members cope with and know how to support and help their loved ones fighting alcoholism.
To assist members by having them understand they aren't alone in their struggle, is the principal target of Al-Anon.
Alcoholism Affecting A Family
The people close to the alcoholic person are also affected in one way or the other and Al-Anon seeks to help them also overcome the challenge they might be facing. Important to the alcoholic's recovery is the friend and family support system.
Lack of understanding the cause of their loved one's drinking problem makes family members suffer self-condemnation and also not know how to deal with the problem. During the Al-Anon gathering, people are educated about taking alcoholism not as a one person problem but as a joint issue in the family.
Alateen Is Al-Anon For Teenagers
Al-Anon is also home for a group which is identified as Alateen and is catering to youngsters that are affected by alcoholism within their family.
Young people are permitted to meet with others of their own age at these meetings, making the experiences more similar and advantageous.
Why Join An Al-Anon Group
Members of Al-Anon benefit from being introduced to a number of people and families who could have suffered from the problem of alcoholism. All members have worked through some issues though the details may differ. Being with people who understand your struggles and whom you can talk to is a big plus. Al-Anon meetings are held throughout the nation. Call us on 0800 772 3971 to help you find one near you.
What Happens During The Meetings
If you know someone who is an alcoholic, then Al-Anon is the best place for you. Al-Anon can assist you if you are anxious about someone's drinking habit or if their lifestyle affects you personally.
Since they are sure what will happen, some people don't feel free to go to the first meeting. The following are some of the key things to know when you are coming for the meetings:
First and foremost, attending Al-Anon is anonymous
All the members of this group have had an encounter with an alcoholic in their lives
You are not forced to talk or discuss your issues though it is encouraged
There Are Several Kinds Of Meetings
Some may be more beneficial for you than others.
There is no religious base for Al-Anon
Meetings are focused on Al-Anon 12 step program
Al -Anon meetings permit attendees to "take what they like and leave the rest", being conducted under a mantra. In this way, instead of telling attendees what they should do, meetings target on exchanging experiences and difficulties.
As a rule, group meetings begin with reading of Al Anon 12 Step program. These 12 steps have been adapted from a similar program which is also implemented by Alcoholics Anonymous. Members of Al-Anon can take help from a sponsor who can assist them to work through the steps and is available for any support needed during hardships of any kind just as the case is with Alcoholics Anonymous. The steps are as follows:
We did admit we were powerless over alcoholism, that our lives became unmanageable indeed.
The members learn how to accept alcohol addiction as an illness, which they cannot control if somebody else suffers from it.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Trying to change a person that has been affected by alcoholism can be a huge task and lead to breakdown.
The members then recognise the fact that there is a solution out there for them.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.
A key step to the program and acceptance of learning to let go.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
A huge part of the steps are self-discovery, and this is the beginning of the procedure.
The group members write down a list of the instances when they may have been unfair to themselves or their significant others (for example, threats).
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to others human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Permitting them to dig into each issue, this is an examination of every thing in the members moral inventory.
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
This step allows the member to off-load his recovery to someone greater and bigger than themselves to handle.
Humbly ask him to remove our shortcomings.
This part of the 12 steps provides members with the assistance needed to understand how they may have been exercising control or being judgmental towards an addict and how these actions are counterproductive.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed and be willing to make amends with them.
Mostly, doing changes begins with yourself.
Many people blame themselves for their addiction of their loved one.
Personal acceptance and pardoning is also a way to getting help.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
When you decide to make amends, Then follows the action of doing so.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
To complete 12 Steps takes time.
Even if the members have already completed their inventory, missteps are normal.
Step 10 makes this clear that the process takes long.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious effort with god as we understood him praying only for the knowledge of his will and the power to carry that out.
Self acceptance is the major key to all the stages of recovery.
Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in our affairs.
The last step includes perception that the persons journey is not over yet.
Encouragement is provided to members to support other members with their education.
A Greater Understanding Of The Higher Power
Members recognise there is a spiritual power that helps them to recover. The "higher power" or God is according to each person's perception of whom they consider Him to be. Al-Anon gladly accepts members from all religious traditions and denominations; nobody is forced to alter their beliefs here.